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24 December 2022

WISTFUL CHRISTMAS

My memories are clear as yesterday,
Enjoying traditions of the years past,
Reflecting back as if it were today,
Realizing this was some years ago,
Yet taking time to live in the moment.

Coming together and celebrating,
Hearing seasonal songs and children’s laughs,
Ripping gifts open and seeing smiles,
It brings together family and friends,
Some near and some far to share holiday,
Tasting the seasonal delicacies,
Making many new memories today,
Adults telling stories of yesterdays,
Sharing the reason for the season’s joy.


 


 


24 November 2022

THANKS FOR GIVING

Thanksgiving 2022

As I lay battling my greatest demon, insomnia…like so many other nights.

Today.   <deep breath> 

The day of the month and Thanksgiving Day line up exactly as they did six years ago when I felt my Dad’s hand let go of mine and felt him at peace and free of any pain he endured.

I know, he knows Mom and I are doing OK, as his light is with us wherever we go.

His voice reminds me in Hungarian to loosely translated, “keep my head up, be strong and move forward.”

Today.   <exhale>

Mom and I will celebrate Dad with our tradition of morning sunrise at the beach and spend most of the day together.

I want to wish my family and friends celebrating thanksgiving with their loved ones today, a day filled with tradition, reflection, creating memories and treasuring time together with those important to you.

We think of those family and friends celebrating miles away often and wish your feast will fill not only your mouth with a myriad of food and drink but your heart with blessings with a reset of prioritizing what is most important during the holidays, spending time with those who not only mean the world to you, but are your world.

For today, my family and friends, I want to give thanks for giving me a place in your life's journey.



15 October 2022

GRADE 8: EXPERIENCE WAS CALLING BUT I DIDN’T PICK UP

continued from 08.22 – GRADE 7: IT WAS NOT HEAVEN CALLING 

Do-Over!, Not Quite but … Close
Remember back in child playground games when it was your turn to do whatever, and it didn’t quite create the desired result you wanted, you’d scream “do-over!” Most of the time, despite your friends crying “No fair!” you still did your “do-over” and were obliged to your friends’ graciousness. Even through you didn’t do quite as well as you expected, you felt as if you did and that’s all that mattered. I didn’t get to quite “do-over” Grade 7, but Grade 8 opened up a chance to reboot and a second chance at a fresh start with new neighborhood, new home, new school and new friends. Everything looked so familiar, yet so different, I was not just locally lost, but in knowing myself.

We spent the better part of a weekend moving from Miami to Hollywood. By the end of the weekend, this new residence became our home once our furnishings took their place. We were all exhausted once evening came around, but relieved knowing we had a spacious home to come home to and did not return to spend another night in the small apartment we left behind in Miami. Our new home’s backyard was on a cul-de-sac, albeit of a canal, it delivered a water view reminding me of our cottage up in Muskoka, Ontario. While it was not anywhere as rural or as beautiful as the cottage, it still offered much needed peace after hurried stress of a long day, when an occasional boat would pass by or seeing various wildlife in the yard.

At the cottage, it took the better part of an hour to get into town and then hour to return. We did this trip once a week to buy our groceries, fill our drinking water jugs, pick up any other items we may need and before heading back we’d stop for a treat at the family-owned bakery or have a scoop of my favorite maple vanilla ice cream. Am I the only one who recalls very specific memories from my younger years this so vividly? I have many memories like this which are cemented deep within my thoughts. I am sure you know the ones, they often leave you with specific periodic flashbacks, leaving a warm, comfortable feeling until something snaps you back to the present with a nasty reality check.

One of the first weekends we went venturing the neighborhood to locate the nearest grocery store, shopping centers and to get a feel for our new neighborhood. It may not have taken an hour for our trip to the local grocery store and our errands didn’t take all day but we spent all day exploring our new city. We located the nearest Publix grocery store and picked up groceries as well as lunch from the deli. We picked up deli fried chicken, a side of both shredded coleslaw and potato salad. To this day, thirty plus years later, when we occasionally decide to pick-up the same meal at our local Publix, the aroma permeates the entire car within seconds and remains a memory of our first outing when we moved to Hollywood. I know there were Publix supermarkets in Miami, but when shopping in our part of Miami, it was easier and probably safer to support the local bodegas and supermercados (mostly Cuban owned grocery stores and supermarkets) than to venture out of the neighborhood to find the larger and established supermarkets.

Olsen Middle School

Déjà Vu … Renew or Anew, Whatever!

Several weeks before starting Grade 8, Mom and I repeated the rigors of the registration process at a new school once again. Unlike Citrus Grove Junior High School, Olsen Middle School was an open school with a dozen or so classrooms arranged with numerous loggia separated by hallways. It was easier to navigate from class-to-class within the five minutes. Mom and I found the administrative offices easily and cheerfully greeted by an older woman as we walked in the door. Her last name we instantly recognized of being Hungarian origin, Mrs Nagy coupled with her cheerfulness and common thread of ethnicity invited a genuine friendly conversation as we started the registration process for the upcoming school year.

This will be the third time in a year or so – we have now become professional paper handlers. She handed Mom a clipboard of papers to complete and in turn Mom handed Mrs. Nagy the accordion folder filled with my medical records to prove vaccinations, transcripts from last school attended, previous report cards, standardized test scores, emergency contacts, proof of address and a bunch of other useless information that was needed this go around. After making photocopies, or as we called it back then, Xerox copies of what she needed, she handed me the accordion folder back to hold until my Mom finished the last of the paperwork. Once everything was reviewed and double checked, Mrs. Nagy helped me register for my classes and check if I was eligible for bus transportation. Amongst the five required academic classes to meet high school admission requirements I was able to choose one elective, I chose Art class from a list of maybe a dozen or so choices. Mrs. Nagy assured me before winter break in December, I’ll be able to pick another elective for the second half of the year. Lastly, she reviewed my address and determined I may be eligible for bus transportation if our address was two miles or greater from the school. We finished all the paperwork and said our good-byes. On the way home, my Mom reset the odometer and checked the mileage from the school to the nearest school bus stop, it looked as I missed the two mile requirement by one tenth of a mile. I felt somewhat anxious yet excited in starting Grade 8 at Olsen Middle School.

Relentless Restlessness
I don’t know how, but the first day of school sneaked upon me much faster than I expected. I awoke on the morning of my first day of school with my Mom making noise in the kitchen and reminding me at least a dozen times if I have my bookbag (before backpacks were cool) and to hurry up eat breakfast while she packed my lunch. All this at least a half hour before my alarm clock was set to go off. A few weeks ago, when we registered with Mrs. Nagy, she told us to bring a bookbag or knapsack on the first day of school to bring home a set of textbooks. She explained I will be given a set of our textbooks to keep at home because the school didn’t have lockers. At Citrus Grove Junior High School, we had lockers for both our textbooks and physical education and only needed to bring home textbooks or those items which we needed to complete our homework. I did as I was told, I hurried along, finished breakfast, dressed and grabbed my bookbag with school supplies and was ready before our scheduled departure time. Before school started, we took a rehearsal drive during the weekday and took note of traffic and if the railroad crossings would cause any delays. A lesson I learned early from both my parents was it’s always better to be an hour early than a minute late.

Once I became more familiar with the school’s layout and slowly started making friends, I asked my Mom to drop-off in the morning and pick-up in the afternoon further away from the main entrance. I didn’t want my friends seeing me as a car rider let alone being greeted by her with a kiss. I don’t know about others, but at this age, just about anything could embarrass me and make blush all shades of red. With a kiss good-bye, Mom dropped me off at school and though the south Florida weather still felt like summer, summer officially ended with the sound of the first warning bell. After a month of being a car rider, I began riding the school bus everyday. Almost immediately after the first day of riding the school bus, I regretted my decision of giving up being a car rider. I wanted to return to my Mom driving me but my own pride prevented me from asking her if I could return to being a car rider.

One of the first things I noticed on my first day of school was the almost the entire population of the students spoke English. Even though many of the students already forged their social circles based on attending them from attending same middle school for the previous two years and more than likely attended the same elementary school years and to an obvious but lesser extent on the racial divide. The post Dragons in the Dungeon I mentioned what happened to me behind the academic side of this school. By the end of first quarter, I didn’t always want to go to school and it wasn’t because I was not feeling well or wanted to avoid a test. It was in Grade 8 I learned about racism from by other students. I was often bullied and heckled and called cracker and white boy, along with other names which humiliated and embarrassed me. This happened between classes, in physical education class, during lunch or any other time outside the safety net of a classroom. My friends and I learned to skip classes to escape the bullying when it became too much too handle. School’s didn’t have a formal policy, “see something – say something” as they do now. It goes without saying, you could tell an adult what’s going on but then had to worry about further repercussions from the bullies. There were times when I just wanted to avoid having to b

e on campus or be around both teachers and students alike. It was these times, just escaping the campus when it resembled more like the confines of a dark, dreary detention center for delinquents than a school. The more than two handful times I skipped class, I was never caught, perhaps administration knew, nobody wanted to be there or I knew where to hide out for an hour.

First Period
I glanced at my class schedule; I saw my first period class was civics. Mr. Bertino, a shorter middle-aged man with a beard. He stood by the door welcomed each of us into his classroom or directed others to the right loggia for their own first period class. His classroom was inviting, despite it being furnished with antiquated furniture with aged wall and window coverings. His blackboard had his name spelled out, basic class rules and discipline policy and the week’s assignments. Three of the bulletin boards were decorated for the federal, state and local governments respectively and the fourth bulletin board was an information board of upcoming school happenings. Unlike Mr. Rodriguez, my Grade 7 civics teacher, Mr. Bertino was more interesting to listen to, his passion and voice were both in snyc. Before the bell rang to signify the end of the first day’s class, we learned Mr. Bertino was also the mayor for the City of Dania Beach. He always ended class with a cliffhanger, which I enthusiastically returned each subsequent days to find out how the story ended, only to be left with another cliffhanger from the current day’s lecture.

Mr. Bertino, was a known community advocate and educated citizens of the importance of being informed and the importance of the right and responsibility to vote. We were held accountable to staying informed through clipping of a current event and summarizing the event and then express our opinion. On more than one occasion where a topic led to highly opinionated or controversial views, the class would take sides and argue against each other. Mr. Bertino used this as a teachable moment to introduce us to the basics of Robert’s Rules of Order and other debate skills. We learned to express our opposing views properly so all sides had a chance to be heard. With these skills being practiced, he stressed the importance of being informed of issues and events involving our local communities as well as our state, country and taking interest in the world. He would often say, staying informed is part being a responsible citizen. Being an elected official, he lived and believed in the principles of success our democracy is done by keeping informed and participating by voting in all elections, not just the ones having the greatest impact or interest. I managed keeping in touch with Mr. Bertino for several years after graduate school, with his help he appointed me to a city-wide civic board which started my own lifelong civic engagement.

Second Period
My second period class, was science, with Mr. Robinson. He looked young enough to have just graduated college and this was to his first few years of teaching. Mr. Robinson’s class, also was decorated appropriately towards the importance of science, how science impacted our daily lives and careers in science. The themes remained the same but the postings changed quite often. He often encouraged us to go up to the bulletin board and read the information he put up. The classroom was refreshed with brighter lights, newer wall and window coverings and modern furniture. I remember Mr. Robinson used various teaching styles and was different from many other teachers I had until then. His methods balanced lecture, experiments, films and pop quizzes. His unenthusiastic lectures and days we watched films easily competed with the science teacher in Ferris Buehler’s Day Off and often left half the class asleep. The days we Mr. Robinson led experiments where always a break from lecture and brought his science lessons to life. Whether it was him demonstrating chemical reactions or how gases react when exposed to other gasses to preparing a slide to see things under a microscope, this was the highlights of this class. The biggest take-away was I learned to formulate a hypothesis and support my answers through scientific research and learned to ask the whys and hows and submit my first science fair project using the scientific method. The inner science nerd in me still remembers the different components being, question, hypothesis, experiment, observe, record, analyze and report results.

It was this class, we explored a broad range of the sciences; from astronomy to zoology as if this class was a salad made up of many different ingredients thrown together. This exposed me to various sciences and helped expand my love for science and helped me foster a lifelong appreciation for the sciences.

My apologies to my high school language arts teacher Mrs. Schott. Clichés despite how appropriate they are, they were never meant to be used in written word. I digress, in this case it was a good pun but also fit all too well in what I was trying to convey.

Third Period
I meandered to Mr. Churchill’s mathematics class. This was my first exposure to something outside of a basic arithmetic. Retrospectively, I think this was a pre-algebra class as topics introduced were vaguely familiar but with a spin on it, the problems incorporated letters into the mix. I never liked mathematics and dreaded the thought of going to this class.

Mr. Churchill was an older gentleman, who took an interest in each student on an individual, personal level and took time to discover out what motivated or what discouraged us and if we had any barriers to learning. In today’s society, I think it would be frowned upon and possibly not professionally encouraged for teachers to get to know students on this level. The one conversation I remember as if it were yesterday, was when I found out we both shared a common thread of both of us lived in Michigan and enjoyed our summers at a cottage on the water. Albeit in two different geographical areas, but very similar in all other ways.

His calm teaching style and ability to explain problem solving in a myriad number of ways, one was bound to turn on the notorious light bulb even if it was just a dim glow, of the “a-ha got it moment. Somehow, he managed to find ways to help students individually and find a personal connection to help you comprehend the lesson. Throughout the year, I increased my self-confidence and acquired a can-do attitude towards math. I eventually looked forward to his class and learned to overcome my anxiety towards going to his class. As the year progressed, the lessons progressively increased in difficulty, yet somehow I always left his class less frustrated and more prepared to take on the evening’s homework with confidence. I may not have always had the correct answers, but I was able to explain how I derived at my own correct answer, which he always recognized and praised my efforts.

Lunch
Lunch was thirty minutes squeezed between third and fourth period. I dreaded lunch period because the same bullies from the school-bus grabbed my brown bagged lunch out of my hand and destroyed lunch contents by eagerly stomping on it on the ground. One of the kind ladies from the library saw what was happening and invited me to eat lunch in the library from then on. The kind lady was one of the librarians who asked me to become a student aide in the library for Fourth Period when classes resumed in January. When it was time to choose classes for the second half of the year, I requested to be a library aide to replace one of my electives. This would release me from participating in another semester of physical education. I continued to eat lunch in the library and often read books and when times were slow the ladies allowed me to explore my curiosities of the Apple Computers in the backroom.

Fourth Period

In my previous post, Grade 7: It Was Not Heaven Calling, I shared my experiences in Physical Education in Grade 7, Mr. Nelson was definitely not Mr. Rodriguez in fact they were total opposites. It was obvious to me, if not everyone, Mr. Nelson had his favorites amongst both girls and boys. They were the school’s athletes, the jocks, the pretty girls and handsome boys. It was definitely not the fat ones like me or the skinny ones or others with awkward body types or not interested in team sports or physical education. His lack of maintaining discipline only favored the bullies who got away with intimidating those who didn’t quite fit in, like me. This was made very apparent after running laps around the track for field day.

After running less than the prescribed mile, I became severely overheated and ended up vomiting a couple times after just shy of a couple laps. Mr. Nelson opted to not send me to the school nurse rather he simply chocked it up as the fat kid, me, didn’t like physical activities or being outside. He told me to go get water and sit down, the remainder of the class laughed at my weakness as they passed by me. I remember remaining weak and nauseated for the remainder of the day. After the track incident, I ended up failing the first quarter of class because I failed to dress out and participate more than the allotted times in the quarter. Maybe it was the physical activities, but more specifically, I didn’t like team sports or other activities which involved me competing with anyone but myself. I much sooner would have taken to climbing a tree or jumping and swimming in the river at the cottage or actively playing with my friends than be involved in any competitive physical activities.

I was relieved this class was only for only half the year, or one semester as I dreaded going to this class or being in his presence. To this day, I can’t point my finger at any one single item but there was something questionable and troubling of his character which always made me uncomfortable whenever I was around him. In hindsight, when I look back to that particular track day, I think this was my first migraine. I am not sure if had he known but I exhibited all the signs of a migraine with light sensitivities, nausea and other symptoms although I would not be medically diagnosed until several years later.

When I resumed classes after winter break, my Fourth Period elective was approved to be a student library aide. I learned various library and media skills. I never realized there was a proper way reshelve books using by the Dewey Decimal system. I also helped check in and check out books, find and locate books using the card catalog and kept the library organized and clean. In media, I learned how to operate overhead projectors, film strip machines, movie projectors and hook up televisions to the school’s CCTV system. I worked hard to please the three woman who ran the library, Mrs. Schwartz, Mrs. Brown and Mrs. Sumner as they treated me exceptionally well. If it was a quiet day I was often allowed and even encouraged to read my book or if the ladies happened to be in an agreeable mood, I was able to go to the backroom, and continue exploring my interests on the Apple II computers.

Fifth Period
I looked forward to art class, as a much needed diversion from all the academic classes with hopes of expanding my interests in drawing and learn how to use new media and material. Mr. Crumpler’s monotonous and lackluster lessons introduced art projects from the very simple and uncomplicated. Retrospectively, I didn’t realize the abilities in the class varied from beginner to advanced and the many in between. Our in-class demonstrations were often taught step-by-step; this ensured every student could create and complete an art project to be proud of and ultimately be worthy of bringing home to share with their families.

Every week or two we were introduced to a new area of art, graphic arts and design, illustrations, 3D rendering of a floor plan, logos and symbols and other ways art intersects with our daily lives. For those of us who were more artistically inclined, Mr. Crumpler pushed our creativity to the next level, he encouraged us with an added element or expanded our project beyond the lesson. Those little nuggets of gold made the difference between an art class assignment and an art project worth submitting to the county fair, for which I submitted a mixed-media of acrylic paint and ink of painting of something or another and managed to score an honorable mention ribbon.

Throughout the year Mrs. Schwartz observed my interactions, curiosities and interest in the computers in the library. Mrs. Schwartz, one of the kind librarians who I had lunch with, informed me about an introduction to microcomputer class for everyday students like me, starting up in January. There other computer classes offered were for the intellectually gifted or those with learning disabilities. She strongly suggested it would probably be to my best interest having a parent to come in to make the transfer in person since seating is limited. Before classes dismissed for winter break holiday, I asked my Mom to speak to my guidance counselor or even the principal to get me into this computer class. My Mom came to the school and put in the formal request to transfer me from art class to the new computer class. She was told if the change was approved, I would be notified by my first period teacher.

Upon returning from the winter break holiday, as I entered Mr. Bertino’s class, he handed me a folded piece of paper. Once I got situated in my seat, but before the tardy bell rang I opened the folded piece of paper to reveal my new schedule. With a quick glance, I saw physical education class was replaced with library aide. As I further read, to my contained excitement, I was transferred from art class to introduction to microcomputers.

Upon walking into the computer classroom for the first time, it’s as if all my senses came out of academic hibernation. Excuse the platitude, but my eyes saw a sea of brand-new Apple II computers begging to touched by salivating students eager to get their hands on them. The ear shattering sounds of the dot-matrix printers printing and floppy disk drives whirring were just slightly quieter than Mrs. Roop calling the class to attention for the first roll call on the first day of the semester. There was even a unique smell to the new computers, which probably was the hard plastic cases mixed with freshly coming out of the cardboard boxes they were shipped in. The excitement was much like the smell of a new car, the smell you love to hate and hate to love.

Mrs. Roop a younger, pretty lady who taught business skills was the one taking on the introduction to microcomputer class. For the next two grading periods, Mrs. Roop attempted to teach us how to program in AppleSoft BASIC and Apple LOGO. My friends and I came into the class feeling we knew more than our teacher. Most of the students in the class had home computers of varying brands, but nothing as advanced as an Apple II with it’s dedicated display monitor, floppy disk drives and a dot matrix printer shared with an A/B switch. Our computers at home often were hooked up to a spare television and those of us who were lucky had cassette tape recorders saving the programs we created. Mrs. Roop taught lessons word-for-word from what appeared to be a generic beginner’s guide to BASIC curriculum.

The simplest programs brought cheers of excitement for students who were not familiar with BASIC programming; at any level. With every free moment we had in class, we would sneak in a game or hack an advanced program. When I was caught, I remained respectful and wasn’t an arrogant adolescent with an attitude, I simply did as I was told. I felt our teacher had technophobia, as her lessons really were ingenuous and didn’t wow those of us who knew how to program in any form of BASIC. My love for computers and especially all things Apple exploded in my final middle school year, like a bad addiction, I still am wow’d by Apple products and use them presently. Steve Jobs created an excellent customer feeder program by introducing students throughout the United States and possibly other countries to Apple early as many of them continued becoming a customer for life.

Perhaps, Mrs. Roop didn’t teach me anything new in BASIC, but she helped build the foundations of continually exposing us to new technology despite her own insecurities. My friends and I often spent a lot of our free time exploring and dissecting technology. On weekends we rode bikes to our local Radio Shack or went to electronic shows (the precursor for computer shows) on the weekends. Occasionally, when I look back, I wonder if Mrs. Roop ever became more tech savvy or is she still stuck in the early 1980s days of technology or does she wonder what became of the geeks and nerds in her class like myself? Oddly, those who teased and laughed at my friends and I for our obsession with the technology are now the very ones today who can’t go without their very own smart phones for any moment in time. Who would have thought we’d be staring down at handheld devices which are exponentially more advanced than the Apple IIs we used in Grade 8 and ultimately changed the way we communicate with each other, listen to music, search and save information.

Sixth Period

The carbohydrate coma from lunch set in as I took my seat in Mr. Santangelo’s language art’s class. I always liked reading, writing and anything to do with language arts, it was my favorite academic class. However, by the end of the day, I was already mentally exhausted by my five other classes, each with a different teacher and set of students and getting along with just as many personalities. Based up my inner observations, it was at this age I grasped I am not as shy as I was when I was younger, but more of an introvert. Miraculously, I was able to get over this mental exhaustion within an hour or two of being in the comforts of home. There were a few familiar faces who I shared two or three classes with but for the most part everyone was all new to me and I was okay with my current situation and my slowly evolving small group of friends.

Mr. Santangelo was an older gentleman with an exterior appearance was of an all means a type-A personality which you would not expect to go into education, especially a language arts teacher at a middle school. His outward exterior; dress, hairstyle and overall curmudgeon personality reminded me much of the character Archie Bunker on All in the Family. Yet, his teaching style was direct, to the point, no warm and fuzzy, just arguably he was there to teach. His ultimate goal was for his students to learn writing in different styles, introduce public speaking and appreciate reading a book. My grades reflected my lack of interest in being in class as I just coasted by with average grades and not necessarily because I wasn’t a good student because I just wasn’t always mentally present. I stayed focused for about half the class period as his unconventional teaching methods piqued my interest in learning, but my grades told a different story.

I remember he asked me if underhandedly if everything in my home life is okay and then wondering why would he be asking me this. I always thought of my home life compared to my friends was great – both my parents were still married and we were a close knit family of three and I was provided for accordingly. I can’t recall the specific questions but apparently his concern for my well-being showed his gentler side. The topic came up again at a conference with my Mom. He was somewhat confused and not quite understanding why a good student like me was so easily distracted and was having difficulty getting above a C. He shared with my Mom, all my homework is submitted neatly and I participate in class discussions but my classwork written work looked as if an exact opposite student of me completed the work. This wasn’t like elementary school and Mrs. Bowling where I could stay inside during recess and have a “redo.” Despite my grades, Mr. Santangelo achieved his goals with me to learn to write in different styles and I became more comfortable public speaking. I already mastered the goal of appreciating reading a good book when I was still in elementary school and it became a lifelong interest. Perhaps, had Mr. Santangelo been my teacher earlier in the day my grades may have reflected my true abilities in language arts and proved to him this good student was the real me, not the one who saw me at my worst.

Experienced Educators or Faculty Failures?
There must be something said which many of us don’t recall details of our middle school or in some cases junior high school years. My thoughts, the interjection of hormones into our bodies over floods our brain’s capacity to only handle irrational extremes and not the daily mundane routines. Whether I intentionally suppressed the events of Grade 7 and Grade 8 years or not, it left a definitive blur. I have only recently cleared the blur through a great deal of emotional inner reflection and discussing with others and eventually putting my thoughts together for my blog.

Although south Florida schools were academically behind my elementary school in Michigan, I was placed in several remedial classes throughout Grade 7 and Grade 8. These classes gave me the feeling of déjà vu as I suffered from repeating a previous grade from elementary school. I was bored in most of my classes. I believe I would have been diagnosed with attention deficit disorder had I been a student today. I often became distracted which interfered in keeping me focused on the teacher’s lecture. A diagnosis of attention deficit disorder would probably have gotten me professional help understanding and handling my situation. My parents and I thought we knew what attention deficit disorder was. We only knew it as the bad students had it and where the one’s that caused all the discipline problems in the classroom. It wasn’t until many years later when I started working with children at the YMCA, I started seeing well behaved children like myself exhibiting the same behaviors and were labeled with attention deficit disorder.

Looking back, my grades reflected a lack of focus and boredom and didn’t certainly reflect my actual knowledge or abilities in the subject. My behavior was not a problem, but if I didn’t like a teacher, I would either drift off to my own thoughts, my lack of participation during class or failed to complete my homework or a combination of all these, then sum up my grade to just barely making a C average. I recall many of my Grade 8 teachers tried to keep me focused and found creative ways to encourage me to learn. There were a select few probably looked at me as nothing more than another delinquent rather than the student who needed additional stimulation to keep me focused. Grade 8 turned out having more experienced educators than the faculty failure of Grade 7. As for student life and extra-curricular activities, I shared these in Dragons in the Dungeon and several other posts about reflecting on this tormentous period of my life. If given the opportunity to do-over Grade 7 and Grade 8, would I? probably not. If it happened today and I saw experience was calling, I wouldn't pick up but let it go to voice mail. Just as back then, I am too busy picking up pieces of life's puzzle. The pieces I find along my journey helped me find my way to where I need to be and with confidence, I found my place in life and become the adult I am today.


 

09 September 2022

HER MAJESTY

I write this as an American,
Mesmerized by the Windsors,
As far back as my early childhood.

The Firm as they often refer to it,
Maintain a mysterious lifestyle,
Behind their subject’s everyday eye.

In a time without knights and kings,
Even queens and questionable opulence,
They live a life of past pageantry.

Struggling to find their place,
Somehow they remain relevant,
In today’s fast paced world.

Yet…

Her story told in the public eye,
Like that of a favorite theatrical play,
Carried out in a well rehearsed performance.

Her life choreographed in ceremony,
Like generations coming before her,
Written with intention and purpose.

Her reign over the Commonwealth,
Like the sun that never set on it,
She continued to shine her light.

Her Majesty,
Admired by many,
Revered by the world.

Her sparkling eyes,
Like that of a curious young child,
Exploring the world around them.

Her welcoming smile,
Like that of a grandmother,
Embracing the world as family.

Her words were few,
Like that of a shy school girl,
Yet everyone listened to her words.

Her life well traveled,
Like that of a well informed tourist,
Letting her senses absorb it all in.

Her presence took precedence,
Like that of a clock standing still,
Watching every step she took.

Her Commonwealth just a bit dimmer,
Over the remaining lands,
Of the once vast British empire.

Leaving her legacy,
She balanced service, duty, faith and family,
Job well done, your Majesty.



27 August 2022

GRADE 7: IT WAS NOT HEAVEN CALLING

continued from - IT’S HOW THEY ANSWERED THE CALLING

Excitedly Nervous
As a reference point, I concluded my last post with the words déjà vu, as to here I go again. I was about to relive entering Grade 2 again, not by academic year, but starting all over in a new school, new neighborhood and eventually new friends. Shortly just before Grade 6 ended, my parents dropped the news, once again, we will be moving, this time to Miami, Florida. My parents finally were ready to leave the bitter, brutal freezing winters of Wayne, Michigan and Toronto, Ontario and move to a warmer year round climate. They decided to live where the winters are as beautiful as the summers we enjoyed at our summer cottage in Muskoka, Ontario.

Whether you call it junior high or middle school, for many of us these were the years of a myriad of changes we faced as we transitioned from children to teenagers to adulthood. Which I think many of us would much sooner forget. It's a good thing many of us don’t recall much of these years, they were both physically and socially awkward as we progressed through the various stages of puberty. For me, with hormones raging into my bloodstream and transitioning into a new school, new teachers, new friends to be made and finding out who I was becoming was both frightening and exciting at the very same time. I unintentionally suppressed much of these years as they were probably the years I felt as the odd one that didn’t fit in and it was not just because I was the new kid on the block twice; once for Grade 7 and again for Grade 8.

My last weeks of Grade 6 was uneventful yet bittersweet. With the last progress reports given, the lines were drawn which Grade 6 students will go to which junior high school or for some it was repeating Grade 6. The three junior high schools were Adams, Stevenson and Franklin. Most of my friends and the majority of my fellow classmates were going to go to Adams. Life-long friendships were forged as they would continue on together and more than likely attend the same high school together. I wasn’t sure about who would attend Stevenson or Franklin, nor did it matter. Teachers wrapped up any lessons and stopped teaching new ones, final year end field trips, the last award assemblies and the eventual farewell.

Our good-byes were no longer, it seemed like the forever good-bye, it was not like year’s past.

“See you in the next school year in grade (whatever grade maybe).”

It was more like an extended good-bye, knowing some of us would not cross paths again unless miraculously something brought us together once again.

“It was good being friends with you – good luck in junior high.”

For me, I knew my good-bye was to my everything, everything I gotten used to being part of my life as I knew it. It was tearful good-byes to my school, teachers and staff and most importantly the only friends I really ever knew.

This was the first summer Mom and I didn’t spend the entire summer at the cottage, rather it was an abbreviated summer. There was plenty to prepare for our move, get organized and finally decide when we will leave and then pack and cram into the little 1981 Plymouth Horizon. School in Miami started in the middle of August and not after Labor Day as I was familiar with. While Mom and I were going to get settled in our new home, Dad would join us later once he finished packing up his work tools, closed up the cottage for the season and coordinated the move of our furniture and remaining items and took care of any loose ends. The day finally arrived, Dad did one last check of the car’s fluids and in typical Hungarian custom (or any other European family) we said our forever good-byes before finally getting in the car and departed. With Mom’s saying a quick Hungarian prayer, as we began or journey and headed south to Miami,

“Isten segitsen minket” or translated “God help us.”

Dad expressed to me I was Mom’s co-pilot and we had to look out for each other. I took my job seriously, with maps in hand and within arm’s reach snacks, drinks and the ability to find a good radio station took priority when we travelled through the different cities along our trip. As Mom drove away, tears flooded my eyes, realizing all too well this was really happening. Each time I looked back, I saw Dad’s silhouette getting smaller and smaller until he vanished from sight. Retrospectively, I look back and see how my brave Mom was to drive alone from outside of Detroit to Miami.

With an occasional reminder for Mom to take a break from diving, I looked for the next nearest rest area to stop for a brief cat nap and a much needed restroom run. The little Plymouth Horizon was one of the first fuel efficient cars for its time. It’s excellent mileage per gallon stretched out the occasional stop to refuel and possibly enjoy a cold refreshing beverage. Mom recalled with me how nervous she was but felt comforted by following a woman driving an 18-wheeler for a considerable length of our journey. Mom reminisced fondly of this driver and how she slowed down enough for us to catch up with her when we stopped to refuel and continued to lead the way south. She signaled with her flashers when to slow down and gave us an extended honk of her loud horn when it was her time to exit the interstate and leave us on our own for the remainder of our journey. Finally, we crossed the Florida state line, where we stopped and had our obligatory fresh squeezed orange juice at the Florida Welcome Center and taken another much-needed restroom break. I picked up the last state map of our journey and added it to my collection. Once we got back into the car after our quick stop, we very quickly learned our first lesson of owning a car with a black vinyl interior with metal seatbelt buckles - it can and it will burn you. Florida welcomed us with insanely stifling heat combined with suffocating humidity. I would also learn this is typical weather from May through October.

The last leg of the trip from the Florida Welcome Center to Miami never seemed to come to an end. The drive was monotonous on the Florida’s Turnpike, with the desolate flat lands on both sides of the highway and nothing notable to see between Orlando and Miami. The day grew hotter the further we moved south and as the time moved from morning to evening, making it feel like we will never make it to Miami. The only difference was at night was the sun finally took a break from beaming its bright light. We arrived at our new home without incident, an apartment which was part of the Hungarian Kossuth Club. I don’t remember how we received the keys to our apartment or how or where we slept the first night. I do remember within the first day of arriving, I became reacquainted with my Mom’s stepfather and half-brother for the first time. I met them both several years earlier when we came down to south Florida during one of my winter or spring break holidays.

Hello, Grade 7, ready or not, here I come!

Miami Aerospace Academy

Shortly after arriving, my Mom and I registered for my new school. Unbeknownst to me, my parents and my Mom’s half-brother decided on enrolling me into military school. They concurred it would help me overcome my shyness and teach me structure and discipline. I supposed these were tools necessary to become a man or perhaps to help me overcome being a child of two helicopter parents. As an only child, I was my parents everything. Many of my parents’ friends felt I was not only spoiled but overprotected and shielded from anything and everything that could harm me.

I digress, as we entered the campus of the Miami Aerospace Academy, it looked like a dilapidated juvenile delinquency center. I peered over the cinderblock wall and saw students in pseudo military uniforms performing their morning military exercises, I immediately didn’t have a good feeling of going to this school. After we finished registering, we were escorted by an administrator, or in this case a high ranking officer for a tour of the campus. Upon the completion of the tour, we picked up my uniforms, books and school supplies. I was felt from the very first day this was not going to be the right fit for me and it will open up more questions than answers into my life thus far. My intuition never lied to me and now more than ever, I hoped it wouldn’t let me down.

On my first day of school, I was escorted to the outdoor courtyard. This is where we checked in and listened to morning announcements and the national anthem. Both played on an a scratchy worn-out record player, amplified by a megaphone. I didn’t understand much of what was being said in the announcements. I did my best and followed along with what seemed to be the right thing to do. Once we finished, everyone got in lines for morning uniform inspection and then proceeded to do military exercises (just like the ones I saw the day before – except I was the one inside the fence) for the remainder of the morning. The South Florida heat and humidity was suffocating and within moments I was soaked in sweat. Upon completion of the military exercises, we were given an opportunity to shower. Like much of my peers in the middle grades of Grades 7 through Grade 9, we never showered as it was too awkward for all of us going through puberty at different stages. I am certain I reeked something awful and cannot imagine how bad a couple dozen or more adolescent boys who didn’t shower must have stunk up the lunchroom let alone our classroom. I just changed into a clean uniform and be ready for another uniform inspection just before lunch.

After inspection we went downstairs for lunch. I was exposed to my first Hispanic lunch. I remember coming home from school telling my Mom what they served us. I described it as yellow-colored rice, little black balls in some kind of sauce and bananas fried with sugar and ground meat with olives and raisins. Eventually I was told what they served for lunch that day was picadillo with yellow rice, plantains and black beans. Throughout my brief time at Miami Aerospace Academy I was introduced to arroz con pollo, ropa vieja and lechon asado – this was my only good take away was being introduced to what was Cuban food. The cafeteria food was actually better than a home packed sandwich and a piece of fruit.

While I can still see faint faces of the teachers, I can’t put a name to any of their faces. The only names I recall were the officers, Colonel Marina and Major Mesa respectively which was similar to the school principal and assistant principal. I am more certain than not, I believe one of them lead our escorted tour the first day. Both these two administrators were feared by students for various reasons unknown to me. My opinion compromised of not being able to understand their loud conversations and their reputation in carrying out punishments, I knew I didn’t want to piss either of them off. Despite, not really knowing what punishment consisted of, the rumors and the fear of the unknown was enough to keep me on their good side. There were plenty of other experiences I could write about in my not even full semester at Miami Aerospace Academy however; this post is not about the dark sides of this school.

I came home from school every day to only tell my Mom how much I hated school and complained about the day’s transpiring events. The rigors of military school and the escalated issues grew worse than the day prior and my hatred for everything about the school grew exponentially. At first, I am certain everyone thought I was fabricating a tale to get out of going to military school. It was only when my Mom heard the final complaint coupled with not having made any friends and no one spoke English to me, she then decided it was time to take action. It was already a challenge in making friends being the shy and the new student in the school. It seemed those around me where speaking various dialects of Spanish. It became more complicated when I was unable to make any friends since I didn’t share their language or had any common ground to initiate conversation. My Mom along with my Mom’s half-brother’s ex-wife came to the school to withdraw me and enroll me into the local public school for the remainder of Grade 7.

Although my experiences became an unforgivable loss of time which will never be returned to me, I managed to move onward and regain my footing both academically and socially. The impact Miami Aerospace Academy left me to distrust almost all my teachers until almost high school. On my final day at Miami Aerospace Academy, I couldn’t escape the confined walls of fast enough, the only thing faster was when I finally arrived home the very first thing I did was change from military uniform into street clothes which every typical Grade 7 teenager should be wearing, a pair of shorts and an Ocean Pacific t-shirt.

Citrus Grove Junior High School

Miami Mulligan

After given a couple of days to decompress, Mom and I drove up to Citrus Grove Junior High School to register for school. From the outside, the school was large two story beige building, or as my Mom corrects me and calls is it taupe in color building. With what appears to have no windows and a one point entry (this was before school mass shootings even made the scene). I quickly learned the school was built this way to serve as a hurricane evacuation center. It was a short drive from the previous school, or as I refer to it as the juvenile delinquency center. Despite the exterior looks, it was still just slightly more welcoming.

Mom and I walked around for what seemed like a really long time until we finally found the school’s entrance, it was by the administrative offices. In tow, my Mom was armed with a folder which proved my vaccinations, my school records from when we moved from Michigan and other some loose useless information the school didn’t need to get me registered and enrolled. After registration, I was given a schedule of classes in different rooms. At Miami Aerospace Academy the teachers were the ones who rotated the classroom not the students. The whole concept of the entire student body shuffling swiftly through the halls to their next class in five minutes was foreign to me. Even more so, when I was told I would have to try to squeeze in a quick restroom break within that time, had me wondering how I’d make it to my classes on time. The restrooms were always on the opposite sides of the floor where my class I was heading to.

If I started school in the beginning of the year, I would have been allowed to choose two elective subjects but I was placed in classes which were not already at capacity. As a result some of the classes I was placed in where below grade level and my electives were not by my choosing them.

Although the student body was majority Hispanic or Latino, like my previous school, most of them were bilingual. All the teachers spoke English and some were bilingual and spoke English and Spanish seamlessly interchangeably, which called Spanglish.

First Period
Coincidentally, my period 1 class was Physical Education (or as we called it in elementary school, gym class) was with Mr. Bass. When Mr. Bass blended in with the class in the locker room as he was rather short in stature. His thick, but well-maintained moustache which encompassed most of his upper and lower lip and deep baritone voice commanded respect separated him from the students. I didn’t grow up participating in sports programs, nor was I introduced to American sports by my father who was born in Hungary. Contributing to my lack of athletic ability, I was always the fat kid on the playground and now going through puberty faster than my peers, I really didn’t like daily physical education class. I was often called various nicknames; Sasquatch, Bigfoot or Monkey Boy and not Robert because my arms and legs were hairier than the majority of the boys in class. I always tried my best and managed to do well in class and learned the basics of team sports of baseball, basketball, football and a few team games despite my lack of balance and coordination. I give accolades to Mr. Bass for his patience to teaching students individually and explaining rules not one or two times, but often a half dozen times. There were just as many other awkward students in our class who were much like myself. Many were also born in foreign lands and were not exposed to many of the activities he taught. Just like the military exercises at the military school, most of us dodged the showers but no one forced a shower, Most of took a spray of deodorant under our underarms and went on our way to our next class and left a trail of our body odor where ever we went.

Second Period
For a short period of a few weeks, I was in Mr. Butalla’s period 2 Civics class before being transferred into Mr. Rodriguez’s class. Mr. Rodriguez was the epitome of the science teacher played by Ben Stein in “Ferris Bueller’s Day Off.” His monotone voice, lost the majority of the class, either distracted in other sidebar conversations or the remainder fell asleep. If you paid attention, his lectures demonstrated a man with a wealth of knowledge and passion in this area. My attention was laser focused whenever we studied anything to do with American history, civics, government and constitution but my grades did not always prove it. Perhaps being a first generation American, I felt a connection to these areas and always enjoyed studying about anything to do with what we used to call social studies. He was the first teacher I had who was able to simultaneously keep my attention on a topic I enjoyed and get me to participate in class discussions albeit in his relatable presentation despite it presented in the most possible boring way.

Third Period
My first time walking into period 3, Mrs. Williams’s, Language Arts class for the first time, I entered after tardy the bell rang. I couldn’t find my way to her classroom from the restroom and ended up in the wrong hallway. Her immediate look of disapproval was one my own mother wouldn’t even give me when I did something wrong. It was sharp enough to cut through my soul and realize I would not let this happen again. Let’s say this was an awkward way of being introduced as her new student. It forever defined the relationship we maintained for the rest of my year, distant and cold as ambiance of the classroom. The classroom was dark and cold, the walls were dark and bare and one of the fluorescent lights were out and a couple flickered as if they were ready to burn out any moment. With the exception of the day’s date and homework assignment, the chalkboard was bare as were the two bulletin boards in the classroom. I quickly became aware this was a class being taught below grade level. The thought of being placed in a below grade level class in my favorite subject area was made worse when I heard Dade County Public Schools were ranked one of the lowest in the entire state. I personally think they were the very bottom compared to the entire nation as I compared it what I left behind at the Wayne-Westland School District. I momentarily flashed back in time to Mrs. Bowling’s class in Grade 3, where we did parts of speech, sentence trees, weekly spelling words with spelling tests and began reading Judy Blume chapter books. Mrs. Williams lessons were definitely taught as if we were still in elementary school as to my dismay the class was reading the very same Judy Blume books I read back in Grade 3, as part of assigned class time chapter book readings. I dreaded coming to this class as I was always bored and felt I was far too advanced for her lessons and again, my grades reflected it. I made it a point to prove to Mrs. Williams how much I disliked her and her class that I stopped doing my homework or participating in class.

Lunch Break
Lunch was somewhere period 3 - Language Arts and period 4 – Life Science. I am being generous in time, when I say we were given 25 minutes to literally inhale our lunches and make a quick trip to the restroom. I never understood how students who had to buy lunch, had enough time to stand in line to get lunch then find a seat and enjoy their meal. Junior high school lunch break was the opposite of my elementary school. I thought lunch break was time to fuel your body and socialize with our friends. Although there were no assigned tables, you would meet your friends outside the doors and enter together. Once you had all your friends together, you entered as a group and scanned the entire cafeteria looking for enough empty seats for you and your friends since saving seats was not allowed. The cafeteria monitors turned down the lights as a sign for our voices need to be silenced for the brief lunch period. Maybe this was the only way everyone was able to eat their lunch and go on to their next class. By chance if you finished your lunch before everyone else at the table, you remained in your seat until everyone was finished. Once everyone was finished, a cafeteria monitor would come over and volunteer a student to wipe down the entire table and then inspect the surrounding area and then tell you to go line up by your grade level. I often finished the last of my lunch, usually an apple or some other easy to eat fruit, on the way period 4. Sadly, this left me (and I am sure others too) with horrible eating habits for the rest of their lives by being conditioned to devour our meals quickly. Lunch break became simply an inconvenience to get nutrition in our growing bodies.

Fourth Period
As we were dismissed to period 4, I meandered to my Life Science class where Miss Gonzalez stood by the door welcoming everyone into class by name. I believe this was the first class in Grade 7, I felt a teacher’s genuine warmth. There was hope to believe that some junior high school teachers were answering their calling to be teachers. Miss Gonzalez was relatively young teacher, perhaps fresh out of college and taught her lessons with enthusiasm and my grades seemed to be a roller coaster based on whether I enjoyed what we were learning. As we wrapped up each day and before the bell rang, Miss Gonzalez would leave us with a positive affirmation. One of the most memorable ones for me was, her reminding us with a smile, we all are capable of excellence and to always go make it a great day.

Fifth Period
Remember when I said, due to my late start I didn’t get to pick my electives? I was basically scheduled for what was available? My period 5 class what the school labeled an introduction to vocational-technical careers. The classes changed by quarter grading period and I was exposed to auto mechanics, home economics and graphic arts.

Mr. Aleman, an older gentleman who taught auto mechanics, who if he wasn’t my teacher, I could see my father and him having a beer together while they shared their love of cars and their liking to tinker with engines. Most boys my age loved this class as it was dealing with engines, albeit lawn mower engines, they got to tinker with them in school. I remained indifferent to it. My father was an auto mechanic and was often reminded to study hard so I can go to college and get a job which I didn’t have to work as hard as he did. The last thing my Dad wanted me to be was just become another grease monkey making the dealership owner rich.

The next quarter I was placed in home economics with Ms. Kelly, as auto mechanics made almost every boy drool, this class made every girl’s dream of playing house reality and get graded for it in school. We learned basics of how to keep house not just play house. This would have been an excellent class in high school with a change to the name to something like, “bootcamp – surviving on your own.” The curriculum could cover job searching and interview skills, managing personal finances (both income and expenses), how to build credit and understand basic insurance policy than and real world keeping house tasks, especially cooking simple nutritious meals to avoid eating out every meal.

The final quarter was Mrs. Miner was graphic arts and microcomputers. Since leaving elementary school, this was the first class and teacher I looked forward to every day but had a difficult time earning my dismal grades. Mrs. Miner was the teacher every Grade 7 student needed; tough love to hold you responsible for your assignments and demanded attendance with active class participation. My attendance class participation was not my issue nor was it my assignments. My problem was my continued my personal struggle for perfection. This alone prevented me from turning in assignments both timely and complete. Ultimately, this resulted my grades reflecting just mediocre performance on my report card. In Graphic Arts we learned the foundations of typesetting for press printing, understanding layout and importance of white space while creating eye-catching designs with vibrant colors.

The largest impact from this class was I was exposed to my first microcomputer, the Apple II and my love for computers was launched. We learned about the hardware as well as the foundations of programming in Apple LOGO and AppleSoft BASIC. I still get just as excited at the sound of an Apple II disk driving whirling and a dot matrix printer printing out on pin-feed paper. The anticipation of what we will learn and do in class next was always something new, fresh and exciting and was most certain to create exciting conversation amongst our class. Mrs. Miner provided opportunities for small group activities. Our classroom was not filled with microcomputers nor enough graphic arts stations for everyone to participate in the same lessons so were broken into grou ps. On Mondays, Mrs. Miner lectured and provided the lessons for the week. For the remainder of the week we were in our small groups and was provided small group instruction and activities Fridays were to wrap-up our lessons with classroom discussions or on occasion a written test.

Sixth Period
My final period, period 6 was mathematics. Although, my basic math skills was never strong to begin with, I managed to be functioning at the lower end of grade level mathematics when we left Michigan. My Grade 7 class was just being introduced to learn decimals, percentages and fractions. I remember this being taught in elementary school but because of my weakness in this area, this provided a much needed refresher and opportunity to practice my skills. I often ponder if I was placed in this remedial math class because of my abilities based on standardized test scores or there was no room in a general math class. Despite being placed this math class, it helped me gain much needed confidence and improve my skills before moving on to Grade 8. Mr. Biddy and Miss Brooks team taught lessons and provided one-on-one assistance as needed. Both were approachable and well liked, their patience to explain and re-explain math skills to me at least one thousand times. Each time explaining it in a new way, hoping that one of them would eventually turn the proverbial light bulb on even if it was a just a dull glow that remained on for the remainder of the lesson. Both Mr. Biddy with his corny jokes and laugh and Miss Brooks with her beautiful encouraging voice earned not only my respect but admiration of what it took to be not just a teacher, but one who stood tall amongst the crowd of those who came up short in Grade 7. By the end of the school year, my math skills were brought to grade level and my confidence in math skills vastly improved.

Forgiven Faux Pas
I bet you noticed throughout Grade 7 there were no quotations from teachers. Report cards didn’t have subjective comments. Teachers just bubbled in a grade, just as I did on the many scan-tron score sheets for the tests those same teachers periodically gave. I missed the handwritten ones with the personal individual touch of an elementary school’s teacher’s note recognizing your accomplishments or areas to improve upon.

My parents decided once the school year was over, we will move to Hollywood. We spent countless weekends looking for places to live and we finally found a house, not an apartment in a nice neighborhood. We became familiar with the area by visiting friends living there, spent time at their less crowded beaches and even shopped at several specialty markets in the area. Until now, I have always lived in an apartment, the anticipation of living in an actual house was exciting. Sometime in the distant past, while riding in the passenger seat, somewhere in south Florida, , in the passenger seat, there was a bumper sticker I read, “Will the last American leaving Miami, remember to take the American flag.” This bumper sticker was appropriate to seeing how Broward County was immensely different than Dade County. I could write a post just on these differences alone. The house was located in a neighborhood more familiar to me, it was more suburban and had more similar people to us. I was going to be able to enjoy spending time outdoors riding bikes, hangout with friends at the house after-school or get into things teenage boys do.

My Grade 7 year ended without any fanfare or pomp and circumstance. With the help of my Mom’s half brother, we managed to pack up both of our vehicles and may have rented a small truck from a local moving company and moved ourselves to our new home. Other than the few friends I made in the apartment complex where we lived, my departure from Grade 7 was overlooked with everyone celebrating the last day of school. Then again, it bears repeating, it’s a good thing many of us would much sooner forget the middle years of school. For me, the not so pleasant experiences considerably outnumbered the memorable moments and just proved to me many of these teachers shouldn’t have answered the calling.


 

30 July 2022

THE STOLEN RIDE AND A ROBBED SOUL

As I went downstairs,

Getting all psyched up

For my 5:00am workout.



See an empty spot,
Where I left my car
Just the night before.

Perhaps Mom came by,

And I just forgot 

I parked somewhere else.

She sometimes visits,
But I remembered
Never Wednesdays.

Unexpectedly,

A nightmare came true
My car was stolen.

I took a deep breathe,
Took out my cell phone
Dialed 9-1-1.

What seemed forever,
A deputy arrived
Asked many questions.

He gave me a card,
Case number, his name
And what to do next.

Called my insurance,
Filed a loss claim
Waited thirty days.

I began to look,
But there was nothing
At car dealerships.

They were all either,
Too expensive or
No inventory.

A detective calls,
Only to tell me
Cars stolen aren’t found.

He proceeds to say,
No longer do they
Search for stolen cars.

Video cameras,
Only provide for
False security.

So here I await,
For my settlement
And search for new cars.

Thirty some days passed,
With all intention
Found what I wanted.

It was like a dream,
The right price and all
The bells and whistles.

In my excitement,
I forgot the game
Being played by sharks.

I arrived early,
With hopes to see it
And call it my own.

Soon as I arrived,
The thirsty shark swam
Circled me, its prey.

It tasted the blood,
The moment my foot
Touched his vast realm.

The bait brought me in,
Closer to his large jaws
Waiting for his meal.

I tried to escape,
But faster I swam
The closer he was.

His large mouth opened,
Clenched down for the count
I felt his strong bite.

He took another,
By now I am numb
To his preying words.

So I swam away,
Only to be lured back
By shimmering bait.

I fell for his trap,
Returning to the
Domain which he reigned.

He won at his game,
Before I knew it
I was in the chair.

Listened to mumbles,
Of finance options
Available now.

Then heard more about,
Extra warranties
Covering what-ifs.

Finally, papers,
Wait my signature
Each and every one.

Trying to read yet,
The words all become
Nothing but a blur.

This time I escaped,
With slashes and scrapes
I have my new ride.

Waving a farewell,
I drove away and
Began heading home.

On the long drive back,
I debated if
I made the best deal.

Was I duped again,
Once I took a seat
That wouldn’t let go?

I did my homework,
Researched all options.
And all the prices.

Noting in the end,
The shark always wins
When he seized his prey.

Leaving leftovers,
He began circling
The vast cold waters.

He did this before,
Finishing the meal
That was on his plate.

Only to repeat,
The cycle again
With another soul.





30 June 2022

IT’S HOW THEY ANSWERED THE CALLING

continued from - ANSWERING THE CALLING

Lincoln Elementary School

Preschool

My Mom shared her memories of my first day at preschool, which helped me think back to when I was four years-old. She shared how hard it was for her to let go of me to the strangers in the preschool, even for a half day program. After reviewing some of my progress notes written by my teachers, I inferred this preschool program promoted school readiness. Did you ever notice everything in the educational arena has some form of acronym to call their programs? This program was the SPARKEY program, or Schools and Parents Assisting with Resources for Kids in Early Years.

It was the first time I remember being left in the care of adults who were not relatives or my parents’ friends. Although it was almost a half century ago, I have vivid memories of what must have been my first day of school. The first thing I noticed, was this person’s home looked different than our apartment building. We entered directly into someone’s home, through a door from the outside, where our home we entered from outside to an inside vestibule. This house had only one floor, my apartment building had three floors with four individual apartments on each floor. The house seemed to be larger than my entire apartment building. We stood and waited by the doorway when a polite lady came and greeted my Mom and I. I assumed my Mom knew who this lady was as they started talking. She greeted me by my family name, Bobby, as if she’s known me all my life. Until now only my immediate family and my parents’ Hungarian circle of friends called me Bobby. My senses were overloaded by the number of children in this woman’s home and all the toys scattered throughout her large living room.

This kind lady introduced herself as one of my teachers and she will be one of my teachers in the classroom at school. I thought I knew what school was from watching Sesame Street, but never been to one so I wasn’t sure what to expect a school was supposed to be like. I wonder if my Mom knew if this was a school she brought me to. Did she know she was going to leave me with this nice lady or was this supposed to only surprise me? With her warm welcoming smile, she invited me to join the other children and go play. I was excited to go play with all those toys, yet my shyness didn’t want to let go of the firm grip on my Mom’s hand. I wanted my Mom to be close by. I was overwhelmed by deciding which group of children to join their busy activities at different tables doing a lot fun stuff, coloring, puzzles, games, giggling, dressing up and even had a table with my favorite toys; LEGO building blocks with and die-cast cars in copious amounts more than I could ever imagine.

I read my end of year progress note from the SPARKEY program.

“Bobby has shown great improvement in his social development. He gets along well with his friends and in most instances is more than willing to share and take turns.”

Although it was at the teacher’s discretion to comment and further evaluate the subjective categories on the progress note, I found one and it read,

“Can express thoughts and contributes to discussion”

My teacher commented to this section of the progress note,

“Very well, and how well and often.”

I believe this is my first memory of being a storyteller as I either started early or somethings never change, but I’ll agree on both being true.

Endlessly, since I became an adult or old enough to understand, my Mom apologized for being an overprotective parent. In her eyes, she perceived both her and my Dad didn’t provide for me enough and didn’t let me stray out of their eyesight. Perhaps, she thinks I did not having a good or a happy childhood? The only negative I remember was our apartment building lacked young children my age and having only one car made it difficult to arrange play dates. My educational background tells me I probably faced social anxiety and social awkwardness or simply, being just shy. If anything, I believe my shyness was as a result of being around the same people and not necessarily new people and not often were there other children my age.

Elliott B Elementary School

I transferred to Eugene B Elliott Elementary School for the remainder of elementary school years with the exception of Grade 2. At my request, I began to ask to be called by my proper name and made sure all my teachers knew to use Robert from this point on instead of my family nickname, Bobby. My fondest memories beyond the teachers I remembered the most were the extras and beyond the academic school activities. Some of these activities included school-wide monthly award assemblies, marionette theatre, holiday music (choir/instrumental/brass) shows, art shows, field days, monthly after-school popcorn and a movie, safety patrol, school monitor clubs and a myriad of other activities.

When I compared the schools in south Florida were I supervised YMCA school-age child care programs in both diverse socio-economic and multi-cutltural/ethnic communities many years since my own elementary school days, my school was more organized, offered academic, enrichment oriented and was community-centered. The elementary schools in my current neighborhood start 8:00am and end at 2:00pm as opposed to our days ended at 3:30pm. We participated in both outdoor morning and afternoon recess year-round and went to an enrichment every day. I speculate my elementary school was ahead of its time not only in it its offerings but its much smaller classroom sizes lent itself to ideal staff to student to teacher ratios. This allowed the school became an extended family where every staff member took time to know each student by name was second to none. I challenge any of the schools in my community to compete with Eugene B Elliot Elementary.

Kindergarten

Miss Waytolonis was my Kindergarten teacher, a petite, chubby woman with her salt and pepper hair brought up in a beehive and always wore a sweater over her shoulders as if she didn’t have arms but wings like Tinkerbell. Kindergarten was much like preschool, but we started to learn to phonetically read, basic writing skills and simple math skills. I was introduced to “Curious George” books which started a lifelong love for all things Curious George. Miss Waytolonis, like a shepherd, managed her flock of lambs. Her eyes always watched carefully to ensure no wolf got into her domain. With her gentle voice or a certain look, she could guide the children into a straight line or if they giggled and made noises inside, she quietly reminded us to use our inside voices. Suddenly, the lambs silenced themselves and followed her lead, not wanting to disobey her, did as she asked.

This was the year I met two of my closest friends for the duration of my elementary school years, Kellie and Troy. Through several moves, I managed to keep in touch with Troy until early part of high school and found Kellie many years later on social media living several states away. We actually met up a few years ago on driving with my parents from their winter home in south Florida to their summer cottage in central Ontario. We remain friends, distant, but do catch up when time permits, still share a message or just check in on each other.

Grade 1
By the time I started school, I was already a year older than most of my friends since my December birthday required me to start school the following year. It wasn’t made easier when in Grade 1 I missed more than a month of school due to health-related absences for three separate surgeries for appendix, tonsil/adenoid and ear tubes. Mrs. Clancy, my Grade 1 teacher made sure I kept up academically, she gave a little push and extra help to catch up with the rest of the class. I was mastering reading levels rapidly despite missing so many days from school. I credit Mrs. Clancy for introducing me to my early love of reading and writing. Grades were either an ‘S’ for satisfactorily progressing or “NH” for needing helping. Mrs. Clancy wasn’t much to put subjective comments to any of the progress areas other than a comment of extra work in reading and writing beyond my grade level was assigned to me to keep my interest and not be lost in a daydream.

Tumpane Elementary School

Grade 2
At the end of Grade 1, my parents shared they decided to move to Toronto for the start of the new school year. The seamless transition from when I finished my summer vacation at the cottage to a new home, in a new city and a new school left me distraught since I never said good-bye to my friends and teachers. Tumpane Elementary School was different from Eugene B Elementary School in numerous ways. The school was two stories and resembled more like the houses around the neighborhood, just larger in size. For the first time, I walked to school rather than rode a school bus, we took French lessons, we ate lunch in our classroom not the cafeteria and all of our written work was done in composition books and not loose leaf newsprint paper and we did our math work on write and wipe off boards. All so different than what we did in Grade 1.

To my chagrin and anguish, I was being called Bobby, again. I thought I made it clear, I wanted to be called Robert. My Grade 2 teacher’s appearance was slightly intimidating, she was taller than an average woman, somewhat pale and ghastly looking. Her classroom was set up so the desks lined up in columns facing the blackboard and her desk. I think we must have moved desks around for group activities as I don’t recall a group table for reading or other small group activities. Miss Martin, whose name I only remembered when I saw my class picture and validated it with my progress report, where she wrote about my writing and oral skills.

On my progress notes I was hoping to find something which would catch my attention or to see if anything helped me recall anything worthwhile to write about. Regrettably, the comments were minimal and didn’t provide much insight into what happened in Grade 2.

“He frequently contributes to our discussions.”

“He is showing an ability to relate his experiences to our discussions and is willing to share them with the class. He has learned also to be more concise in his offerings.”

“He is developing an ability to write a good story.”

Grade 2 lacked tangible memorable moments in class with Miss Martin or Tumpane Elementary School as a whole. It wasn’t a bad year, just a year filled with a difficult transition to a new school, making new friends and adapt to new teaching styles. I had difficulty not understanding why I felt like the outsider trying to find my place, which is why I never really never found my niche in Grade 2.

Elliott B Elementary School

Grade 3 and Grade 4
Boomerang!

After the blizzard of 1976 or 1977, we moved back to Wayne, Michigan before starting Grade 3. I was ecstatic when I was told it would be the same apartment and the same school as before our move to Toronto. The one side of me was excited to reunite with my best friends Kellie and Troy. Yet, the other side was nervous to start over again and being the new face in the crowd, even if I was truly a returning student. Whether it was before school started or the first day of school, when it was confirmed Mrs. Bowling in Room 30 would be my Grade 3 teacher, I became anxious as I only heard only negative things about her.

Since starting my blog, YMeJourney, Mrs. Bowling has been mentioned in several posts over the years. With such vivid memories, I have enough material to write a good sized chapter or perhaps an entire young adult novel. My comments intertwined Grade 3 and Grade 4, as I had her for both years. Those two years were unrivaled when compared to all my other elementary school years. My two years with Mrs. Bowling was the most definitive turning point in terms of academics and personally the most formative of finding myself. It is also the ones with the memories I reminiscence fondly and most frequently about. She was the first teacher I had who took an interest in helping me become a better me, every day with the words, “always be better than your yesterday” being reiterated regularly.

During recess the first day, all of us shared who our teacher was and when I mentioned, Mrs. Bowling, some of my fellow classmates became totally speechless and appeared to have lost the ability to talk. While most of my classmates painted a negative picture of Mrs. Bowling, I didn’t want to find her guilty of this crime, so I just listened to the gossip the children rapidly spread words of fear into those amongst us who were undeniably in her class.

“She gives a lot of homework!”

They were right – Mrs. Bowling assigned homework every night, even on Fridays. This didn’t include any classwork you had infamously marked with a red Sharpie marker to “Redo!”

“She doesn’t let you go to recess because she makes you do-over a lot of times!”

The higher standard she held you to, was greater than your expectations of what you could do. She knew you could do better, simply she always knew you were not doing your best. There were more than a handful times I remember sitting in during recess to “Redo!” because my handwriting was not neat or that I didn’t get enough my math facts right.”

As Mrs. Bowling said on one of my Progress Reports,

“Robert is very careless in his written work in English.” Nearly always he has to redo his written work. Sometimes he does it three or four times.”

It was in Grade 3, I started wearing glasses for reading when at one of the parent conferences Mrs. Bowling recommended my Mom to have my eyes checked as she noted some of my difficulties.

“Robert has a bad time copying from a book. He misses words or misspells the words he copies.”

I heard another child say,

“She keeps the bad kids from going to eat lunch in the cafeteria, she makes them eat with her in class!”

In her eyes, eating in the cafeteria was a reward since you get to sit with your friends, eat lunch together, talk amongst those at your table and if you finished early, you were allowed outside for a mini-recess until class started again.

Mrs. Bowling would write in my Progress Notes,

“He works very hard to please me.” “Robert completes all his work, but he has to redo it sometimes, he doesn’t seem to mind it.”

I heard another classmate squeal as if he was being held hostage,

“She’s like my grandma, she never smiles and she’s super mean!”

Unlike my friends and classmates, I never had a grandmother growing up nor not one who lived with me or one who we visited, so I couldn’t relate to what the other children were saying. However; there was no doubt she was much older than many of the other teachers. Granted she didn’t smile often, but nevertheless, she genuinely loved her pupils (as she called her students) as if they were her extended family. She used both rewards and discipline equally in keeping her class in order and knew how to involve class participation in her lessons.

Mrs. Bowling made learning fun. From speed tests for our math tables to self-paced vocabulary testing. The speed tests for math tables was to see how fast we could complete our math tables with 100 percent of the problems correct. Each operation addition, subtraction, multiplication and division once we successfully got 100 percent on each one, three times we would get an award at our monthly school assembly. The self-vocabulary testing we would get a list of 15 to 20 words and had to write them ten times each, look up the definition and part of speech and then in our words define the word and use it in a proper sentence. At the end of the week, if we were brave enough to challenge Mrs. Bowling we would go to the spelling center and she would tell us one of the words and tell us to either spell it, define it or use it in a proper sentence. If we were able to do all of them with no errors, we were given the next list of words for the following week.

“Little House on the Prairie”, a popular the television show during these years, told of a family’s struggles growing up in rural America in the 1800s.  In addition to watching the television show, we read all the Little House books by the real Laura Ingalls Wilder and discussed the similarities and differences from the television show.  In one of the years I had Mrs. Bowling, we took a field trip to Greenfield Village which mirrored life the Ingalls family on television. Our arts and crafts projects followed the theme of living in the 1800s as they did on “Little House on the Prairie.” We converted an empty coffee canister into our lunch box and boys made hats and the girls made bonnets. Once we arrived at the village, we were transported back one hundred years. In a one room schoolhouse, we did our math lessons using a slate and chalk and read from the McGuffey readers and then proceeded to walk the remainder of the village and see different ways how people lived and worked back then.

“She talks funny!”


Mrs. Bowling was born and raised in the south, precisely, Kentucky and had a perfect southern accent and drawl. Personally, I found her accent added warmth to her beautiful presence.

In her accent, I can still hear her calling recess to an end.

“Boys and Girls – time finish up – you have five more minutes of recess.”

“Let’s go Boys and Girls, it’s time to line up.”

She was much like a police officer directing traffic at a round-about, with lines for each teacher’s class she supervised during recess.

As the years passed, from adolescence into my adulthood, I remained in contact with Mrs. Bowling until I was in my late 40s. She became an adopted family member, much like I had the quintessential Norman Rockwell inspired grandmother. I would call her regularly, and she would start our chats by asking how my parents are doing and then asked how am I doing in my studies. As I got older she asked,

“Robert has any girl find your fancy as of yet?”

I replied, it’s not easy finding the right fit when you go to school full-time and work a full-time job and helping care for a parent whose health progressively deteriorated over the years.

She genuinely took an interest in my collegiate studies all the way through my post-graduate school coursework. Probing my brain, much like she did when I had her in elementary school, as she called it back then “putting on your thinking cap” or as we call it as adults, critical thinking skills,

“How would you compare those two classes and how the professors taught?”

“What did you enjoy most and least of that particular class?”

“Why is this class important with your chosen course of study or work?”

I learned why we celebrate the Thanksgiving holiday and the history and relevance of the cornucopia or horn of plenty to taking pride in all that I do and maintaining self-discipline and self-control. Thanksgiving and the cornucopia is another post for another time. Thanksgiving became one of those holidays which reminded me most of her and often was one of the days I would call her and she would share what her ginormous family would be doing to celebrate and how many pies she’s baked and sides prepared, so she could focus on the turkey and ham on Thanksgiving Day.

I kept in touch with Mrs. Bowling until Easter 2016 until my own father faced health issues of his own, which ironically took his life on Thanksgiving Day of the same year. Perhaps you may have read about Thanksgiving in a few of my other posts and its significance of learning of the holiday and how my family celebrated the holiday. This wonderful woman was the grandmother I never had growing up; always talked with a smile, offered countless words of advice and genuinely took an interest and loved me as if I were one of her many grandchildren. With overly generous praise and love, I cannot express my gratitude for her taking an interest in me, her patience in all that she taught me and not just by being my teacher but an extension of my family.

Grade 5
My final progress report with Mrs. Bowling wished me much success in Grade 5 and was assigned to Mrs. Ingersoll for Grade 5. In reality, Grade 5, I learned on the first day I had two teachers. Mrs. Ingersoll was my assigned teacher but I also had Mr. Valent, my first male teacher. Their classrooms were side-by-side. For math and science I went to Mr. Valent and stayed with Mrs. Ingersoll for social studies and reading and writing (language arts). As I look back, we changed classes for math and language arts to further address the differing abilities of the students. This was the first time, I remember my friends weren’t with me in all my subject areas.

Much like previous years, language arts lessons were taught through the traditional reading textbooks and writing assignments in workbooks related to our readings. Mrs. Ingersoll further supplemented additional readings with assigning various American literature classics as well as enthusiastically reading to our class some of her own favorites from the same genre. I remember looking forward to her reading us “The Hobbit”, “Moby Dick”, “A Tale of Two Cities”, “The Chronicles of Narnia” and others. She read us just enough to wet our palates and yearned for more, but she would often say,

“That’s all for today, now let’s talk about what I just read.”


“Tell me about what characters did you like? dislike?”

“What part of the story interested you the most?”

“How would you have changed a part of the story you heard?”

Her discussions, which were just as intense and interesting as the enthusiasm she exhibited while reading the books. She helped us develop and communicate our own thoughts and opinions through writing assignments which almost always preceded with questions to consider answering in our reports. In addition to her readings, we had to read an age-appropriate chapter book on our own every week and turn in complex book reports which asked us to summarize our readings, analyze characters (antagonist and protagonist), define the plot, climax and resolution. Some of my favorite books were “The Adventures of Tom Sawyer” and “The Pigman.”

With the familiarity of how Mrs. Ingersoll taught, I looked forward to her sharing her love of history by storytelling and animating the key characters and bringing them to life. She also incorporated trivial pieces into each lesson often may have been a hidden gem, a twist of character or something that was not commonly known in what we just learned through our textbooks.

Mr. Valent with his black horn-rimmed glasses, he stood by the door when it was time to switch classes for math and language arts. He greeted each of us by name as we entered his classroom, I remember looking up to him, as he was a tall man who bowed his head to get inside the door. When it was time to switch back to our regular classrooms, he always had a positive, encouraging word to share with each student as they left his classroom.

I quickly figured out Mr. Valent taught the tortoises. Once we all took our seats, I looked around to see who switched classes with me, it proved what I already knew, I was with the students who were not the math superstars but those who needed additional help and extra time, be brought to grade level or like me, struggled to remain at grade level.

“Nice job on solving the problem at the chalkboard, Robert!”

“I like how you tried that difficult math problem today.”

Math was never one of my favorite subjects nor was it something came easy for me. The difficulties of understanding the basic concepts of math made it all the more challenging. It seemed like every time I thought I understood what was being taught and then given a couple of the problems I would freeze in my footsteps. As long as my teacher was working with me one-on-one, I seemed to grasp the concept and solve the problems. But once the teacher left my side, the concepts just vanished into the air. My difficulties were magnified when the way Mr. Valent (or any other math teacher) explained in class how to do the problem was totally different than how my father explained the very same concepts. He tried to help me with my math homework, but in the end left me confused and frustrated. In the end, it resulted in may late nights leaving me in tears when it was time to go to bed.

Mr. Valent taught his math lessons at the blackboard. When he would call me to the front of the entire class to work out a problem, I could feel the entire eyes of the classroom staring at me and laughing silently at my arithmetic ineptitude. Rarely did I get it correct on the first try, this further added to my math anxiety and difficulties comprehending the lesson. Mr. Valent rarely showed one-on-one at a student’s desk, but he would call the student up to his desk and put the problem on the blackboard and work the problem out with you and it just created an evil repetitive cycle of defeat.

Where Mr. Valent’s teaching of mathematics, or his lack of ability (at least not in way I understood and was too ashamed to ask for additional help) didn’t help me gain confidence in my worst subject, yet, his teaching science was contrastingly the opposite. He was able to bring science lessons come alive. His enthusiasm towards the space program to the wonders of our planet earth, his excitement was contagious. We all became explorers of our environment and perhaps future astronauts or the next archaeologists. geologists, biologists, chemists or some other scientist. His stories, in class experiments, demonstrations, scavenging hunts kept the class in amazement and quiet for the duration of the lesson.

When it came to progress reports, he wasn’t much for words in the classroom nor on the subjective portion, his words for my “Satisfactory” or “At grade level.”

Towards the end of the day, Friday afternoons, both classes came together where Mrs. Ingersoll played her banjo and lead us in song. We all looked forward to this special reward. We learned a few new songs; some were just fun and goofy ones while others were patriotic or folk songs. These were different from the songs we learned in music class with Mrs. Chartrand. Many of the songs I thought I lost the words to, I managed to quickly remember them many years later when I worked at the YMCA school-age child care and summer camp programs.

Grade 6
I mentioned here and in previous posts how I was brought up to always respect teachers. Perhaps it’s their academic achievement, or their chosen profession to be an educator or more likely I was a reflection of my parents and their parenting but
more likely a combination of all of these. As much as I tried, I really did try but I couldn’t find the gumption to like my Grade 6 teacher. Perhaps, he was because my first all male only teacher? Or was it that I was lost in a boy’s body being flooded with hormones of puberty setting in prematurely? Or was it that this man was a grumpy, frumpy and dumpy older gentleman? As much as I would like to say I tried to like him, I have to be honest, I wasn’t feeling it. Maybe this was his way of preparing us for junior high school but I felt he chose teaching as a career for the summer vacation benefit and not the desire to impact the lives of youth.

I remember my reading and language skills were beyond my Grade 6 level but my mathematics skills further struggled with summer slide and were still not quite at grade level. Fractions, decimals and percentages continue to frustrate me since introduced to them in Grade 5 and just never seemed to resolve itself in Grade 6. I was hoping to have mastered these skills prior to exiting elementary school. Yet, knowing my history with math, it just wasn’t happening with a teacher who was less than interested in teaching than I was willing to learn.

Around January, or middle of the year, progress notes came out.

“Robert’s attitude had turn down and he seems to trying somewhat in correct it. Something seems to be bothering him.”

Again, either my shyness or embarrassment prevented me reaching out for extra help in my weak subject, mathematics. A good teacher would have picked up on my struggles rather than pointing out on a progress report something appears to be affecting me. Or even worse was when he wrote,

“If Robert tried harder, I can only see growth, but until he tries harder there will be no growth.”

For the very first time in my young academic career, I dreaded going to school. The only thing I looked forward to was enrichment or recess and even classwork or group work so I didn’t have to listen to this man’s voice. Recess was still twice a day albeit for less time and we picked our own enrichment classes. The focus was to prepare us for junior high school. Recess was a time for me to release my frustrations through temporarily escaping this academic nightmare. Lunch and recess provided time to chat with my friends from Kindergarten, Kellie and Troy without being embarrassed when I was reminded not to talk in class. If it weren’t for my friends and the non-academic and extracurricular activities I was involved in, I am not sure I would have survived this teacher and Grade 6.

And There Were a Few Others...
Although I shared all my academic teachers, I overlooked the other teachers and staff who made Elliott Elementary School a memorable experience. I didn’t get to know these people as well as I did my academic teachers, yet they deserve accolades as they were worth more than just an acknowledgment for remembering their kindness and lessons learned from them. Some deserved a little more as they too, left a memory worth remembering.

Both Mrs. Trains, who had the perfect name for both strings and brass music enrichment and Mrs. Chartrand for vocal music and chorus helped each student find their musical talent. Yet, both these teachers patiently taught those of us who realized early on lacked any and all musical talent whatsoever; whether an instrument or in my voice. Mrs. Chartrand’s beautiful voice led us in seasonal, patriotic and current popular songs and taught us how to stay in tune and on note and the importance of how and why lyrics were sung a certain way. Mrs. Trains us in proper form and key with our instruments and taught us how to “play on key”, whatever that meant. All of us had an important part in the fall, winter and spring recitals and concerts despite all of us having varying different talent and aptitudes. Both ladies found our gifted talents or found ways to bring out a hidden talent. From both, I gained an appreciation for various genres of both vocal and instrumental music from classical to early 1980s rock and roll.

Lunch time was a time to swap something from your own lunch with something from a friend’s lunch or those who had school lunch would try to bargain away their lunch from the brown-baggers. Those who bought school lunch often were from dual working parents or single family homes were always excited to see what us brown-baggers brought from our ethnic kitchens. Our cafeteria lady, Mrs. Stopchinski not only served those who brought lunch but served those who bought milk and treats through the lunch line. She also served the refreshments during our after-school movie days and our various family events. Starting in Grade 4, one boy and one girl was chosen each day to be the cafeteria helper. As the cafeteria helper you got to put on a kid’s apron, put on gloves and help Mrs. Stopchinski by putting milk, fruit and dessert on the food trays for those buying lunch. My friends and I got to know Mrs. Stopchinski by becoming her cafeteria helper or when she served hot chocolate when we came in from our safety patrol duty on those cold winter cold mornings. Without fail, she greeted each of us by name and a smile every day.

Mrs. Anderson taught Grade 3 and was also the enrichment teacher of student council. I was the classroom representative for student council. My involvement with student council taught me public speaking, compromising and debating skills as well as a love of learning about our American government. This contributed to my lifelong love of studying government and history.

Mr. Alan, the custodian, came into my class one afternoon and recruited a small group of us to help him the next morning fifteen minutes before school started. He was going to teach us how to properly unfold and raise our American flag proudly before morning announcements, pledge and our daily song. He dutifully shared the story of why we pay high respect to what our flag represents. Then prior to afternoon dismissal we met up again and he then taught us how to properly lower flag down with care and to fold it properly for the next morning’s crew. Mr. Alan also taught us to be mindful and respectful of keeping our school clean. He taught by example and made sure we took ownership of picking up trash and disposing of it properly, wiping down our tables after lunch and keeping our restrooms clean of trash. I imagine he must have been in the military at one point in his life as he was a stickler for order, cleanliness and neatness, most things ten year-old boys may have heard of but are rarely made up of.

Lastly, there were those despite not remembering their names contributed to making our school an extended part of our community. Although I know we had art class and gym class, I cannot recall the name of various teachers throughout the years but do remember enjoying participating in both extracurricular activities. In art, I remember the exciting projects we would create with all sorts of supplies and mediums. We could only wish to replicate these projects outside of the classroom as we never seen those supplies outside of the classroom.

Gym class we learned about different foods and how they serve as fuel for our bodies. We were told eating good food makes our bodies perform better and if we ate junk food both our brain and bodies would not function as well. We learned to play various team sports and on occasion played a good game of dodgeball or red rover. As the warmth of spring brought us out of the dark cold winters of Michigan, our gym class spent more time outdoors. We ended up having outdoor field days and color wars where we competed with our classmates in the same grade but with a different teacher and the winning class by grade level had a much-coveted tacky trophy prize to hold on to until the next match. The highlight of art class was the fall and spring art shows where our families came to the school and our gymnasium was setup to be an art gallery for the evening.

Mrs. Roach, a heavier set woman whose presence was always known as wherever she walked, she left a trail of her flowery scented perfume. Her distinct perfume would linger for a short time even after leaving a room. I am not sure what she did at the school but she was the personification of the cliché, albeit in female gender, “jack of all trades – master at none” as I remember having vision and hearing checks, height and weight checks with her while other selected students would also be picked up from their classrooms for different activities.

From the very first time I stepped into the school’s library to this day, the smell of a freshly opened book always brings me to my happy place. It my escape from reality, from my days of looking through picture books to present day chapter books, it allowed me to escape to an author’s realm and let my imagination paint the pictures and let the words tell the stories. I am not sure what grade level, but I remember joining the Elliott Bookbaggers, the forerunner of an elementary school based book club where we would read a book selected by Mrs. Drury, the librarian and then have an assignment and discussion about them. Being an advanced grade level reader, I believe this was a way to keep my interest in reading because the window in my classroom attracted my attention more than my grade-level readers.

Lastly, Dr. Albert A. Ward, our principal, was a tall, long-limbed man always well-dressed in a suit and polished shoes. His name still brings a childhood giggle as reminiscing at award assemblies he would be the emcee and signed our awards as Dr. A Ward – get it? Dr. Award. I digress, quite, juvenile humor, but no doubt still makes me giggle and reflect back at what a great experience I had at Elliott Elementary School. Just as we all knew him, he somehow knew all of us with his genuine warm greetings in the morning and reminding us as he would say,

“Be on your best behavior and remember to be upstanding citizens and scholars as you represent your families, your school and your teachers.”

This may not have been the exact quote he said, but in my years operating school-age child care programs, I had this quote posted at my sites and in my office.

His impressive presence at assemblies as emcee and when you heard his thundering deep voice call your name to the front of the audience to receive your award for your academic achievement, you could not feel but proud and honored to have Dr. Ward shake your hand and recognize you in front of your class and peers.

Under his guidance and leadership, the school was a symphony with every staff member, teacher and student having an important, key part of a well-tuned orchestra. With the exception of Grade 2 and Grade 6, all my teachers were outstanding. The exception was Mrs. Bowling who stood feet above the rest despite her short stature in so many unforgettable ways. As I got older, it became clear to me it’s how they answered the calling which made my elementary school years so memorable and time to move on to the second half of my public school years.

… déjà vu …

To be continued…


 

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